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Obsessions – part 2

People who know me intimately, know that I obsess. About people, about things, about music, about certain celebrities. I build up an image of something or someone in my head to such an extent that I worship certain people in my imaginary world of obsessiveness.

It behooves me to say that my latest obsession is someone the entire country has celebrated – the 44th President of the United States – Barack Obama.

Now, I have never had a keen interest in politics, and never thought I would fall for a politician. But with Obama, it is different. The reason I love him is not solely because of who he is, but mainly because of how he treats Michelle Obama. Their love story is what I truly obsess about.

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I have been in only one relationship all my life, and it was a highly toxic, emotionally manipulative relationship, where I received zero respect. Seeing the respect Barack has and shows for Michelle, makes me believe in all things good and pure.


It gives me my benchmark, my compass. If ever I am lost or confused about someone, I will ask myself – does he respect me and adore me like Barack respects and adores Michelle?


Whenever I am insecure in a relationship, I will remind myself of the strength and security that Michelle feels within herself. These two are truly #relationshipgoals.


Compatibility vs. Chemistry

You know he is not right for you, yet your heart still skips a beat when you bump into him. You stalk him on social media despite knowing that he is probably still dating that hot girl you saw him last with. You are well aware he is a d-bag, someone who will use the Art of Seduction and manipulation to get you to fall for him head over heels, and then crush your heart with great fanfare.

Yet, there is something about the idea of him and you that creates fireworks. You stir up emotions in each other than otherwise don’t exist. The hormones, the anxiety, the anticipation, the lust. All of it. Perfect chemistry, without long-term compatibility, Ingredients of disaster.

Chemistry is when you have those butterflies, and ecstatic emotional swings, simulating a dream-like state. Compatibility is when your lifestyle choices and values align with each other. A new-age hippie and a new york stock broker are not compatible, but they may have great chemistry. It is extremely rare to have both compatibility and chemistry with one person. What then, do you choose, and who do you choose?

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