Easier said than done?
You aren’t responsible for the harm that was done to you, but you are responsible for your recovery. In other words, your freedom lies not in protesting the unfairness of the violation or in getting the offender to care. Your freedom—perhaps your only freedom—is in deciding how to survive and transcend the injury.
Spring, Janis A. (2009-10-13). How Can I Forgive You? (p. 53). HarperCollins. Kindle Edition.
Isn’t it annoying? When your offender doesn’t even feel remorseful? On the contrary he or she blames you for their choices and their actions?
You would think that would make it easier for you to hate them and move on. But no, it is all the more difficult. You keep thinking why did I fall in love with this person and why do I still love him/her? Why does it hurt that he/she is no longer a part of me, and why is there a void?
You would think knowing their true nature would help you heal – but the wound starts bleeding again. And you wonder if you would ever heal from something like this.